Can You Trust Your Feelings?

Often when there is conflict in a marriage spouses experience various negative thoughts and emotions that are automatically triggered by the events and circumstances taking place in the relationship.  When this happens, however, we should ask ourselves some important questions.  Can I trust that these instincts are correct?  Do my feelings truly reflect reality?  Should I act upon them?  

More Cognitive Biases in Marriage

Every single living person has developed biases that affect their perception and reasoning. Biases generally take the form of preconceived notions that shape the way we interpret events, circumstances, words and actions of others, and so forth. Certainly one’s biases can and do have a significant impact on marital relationships. [See previous article.]

Harboring Negative Perceptions in Marriage

Harboring negative perceptions about your spouse can be incredibly destructive to your marriage. Unfortunately, it occurs in the vast majority of marriages to some degree. This is problematic for a number of reasons. What are negative perceptions, how do they harm marital relationships, and what can be done to combat this tendency?

Human Bias and Marriage Problems

There is a very simple reason why no marriage is perfect. Human beings are flawed. There is not a single man or woman alive who is not without fault. So, it stands to reason that the imperfections of both husband and wife will combine to create an imperfect union. One of the shortcomings that we human beings all share is that we are biased in our thinking. Certainly your biases can have a significant aspect on your marital relationship.